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Gendered identity categorizing starts early

2/22/2016

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The New York Times just published a couple of interesting pieces related to our discussions about gender and identity.
First is this column addressing the uncomfortable (and inappropriate?) experience for parents of very young children when people ask whether those kids have a boyfriend or girlfriend. The author notes something relevant to our class:
And yet every time this question is posed, I hear insidious rumblings. I hear heteronormative expectation: You’re a boy, so naturally, you’ll like girls. I hear the gender indoctrination: Girls aren’t like boys, so you should treat them differently. I hear the premature insertion of sexual politics: Girls aren’t your friends; they’re potential objects of desire.
The other piece, published yesterday, asks, "Why Do We Teach Girls That It's Cute to Be Scared?"

Participation! So, why do we? How could things be done differently?

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Jason Ma
2/24/2016 09:49:12 am

Asking these questions enforces the "social norms" as understood by the asker. Perhaps if a heterosexual parent thinks another parent is heterosexual, they will also believe that that persons' children are heterosexual. If someone has been taught that girls are more fragile their entire life, they could believe that it is another social norm applied to all girls.

This could be done differently if people paid more attention to opposing views and make an effort not to impose a fixed gender/identity expectation.

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Melissa Supsup
2/24/2016 03:23:49 pm

Regarding the inequalities between individuals, I believe that society is what creates the disparities and the "social norms" we are all exposed to.

I remember watching a video on YouTube during a conference about racism. These 5-6 years old Black girls were asked to pick between a white doll and black doll after listening to the questions. The first question was, "Which doll do you think is pretty?" And they picked the white doll. Then, they were asked the opposite, "Which one do you think is ugly?" And they picked the black doll. However, the next question was the highlight of the whole experiment, "Which one do you think resembles you?" These poor little girls pick the black doll, which they referred to as the "ugly ones".

In relation to this video, I feel like society has the power to target certain identities, races, genders, and culture to feel inferior in comparison to others. With this blog, girls are expected to be more fragile compared to boys. But why? Why are girls "weaker" than boys?

These subject matters raise awareness to the idea that some people learn to become inferior because of society, some people are born and taught that they are inferior compared to others, and some people are simply different. This, I think, is ridiculous.

Although it's easier said than done, but I feel like little steps towards equality could make a difference. Exposure to these issues, being open-minded to the differences and having the ability to understand and accept these differences could make a change within the society we live in.

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Xinyi Zhan
2/27/2016 10:24:53 pm

I felt like this phenomenon is definitely related to the traditional thought that girls should be elegant, tender, and protected by men, and in many cases this thought makes sense. Girls should be ladylike in some occasions so boys can be gentlemen. If women become too mighty and tought they won't be respected then men. However, this is not saying that girls should be educated to be fragile. They also need to have the courage and tenacity in front of the hardships in lives. In this case, the education for girls are significant and parents should have a sensible way to balance between the development of these two qualities of girls.

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